Let me explain the Gas situation first here since it was the first one I mentioned.
When I moved to this apartment, I thought I had an awesome Landlady. Her name was Roseland Fernandez. She appeared kind and understanding. All was well until I started getting Gas bills. A hundred here a hundred there. Doesn't sound too steep. But that was pushing the limits to my income, not to mention the electric bill. It was a struggle to keep up with both.
The gas bill begins to rise as the seasons changed, and the gas company would raise it higher and higher every year, but early on it got too difficult. I had to choose food over gas, or electric over gas, school clothes over gas, school supplies over gas, and it just started to roll out of control. Before I know it, the bill was so high, I couldn't touch it, and the man that was living with me wouldn't help at all. he only concerned himself with the electric bill, because his name was on it.
Time passed and it just kept mounting up. I took it to IHEAP for help, well because it was still on, they would only pay a small amount, which didn't help at all. My income couldn't handle it. Mind you I was on a fixed income most of the time. though I did work, it was remedial and didn't pay nothing.
A year 2 years ago, they came and shut it off. I thought that was great, now IHEAP will help, so I ran to IHEAP, filled out the paperwork, when I got home the people who lived in the basement apartment, and broke off the seal on the meter thinking they were doing me a favor.
Needless to say, I was livid, but I didn't show it, cause the damage was done. The gas company had to tell IHEAP there was gas at my house so I didn't get any help.
So time passed, and Tanja, the woman in the basement called me downstairs to show me something. She showed me how the Landlady had the gaslines rigged so I would be paying for the dryer she had down there that I wasn't even allowed to use, and when they shut off the gas, there was no heat for the dryer. So that tells you I was paying for building functions I didn't have access to.
Because the meter was in the basement, it was difficult for the gas company to get to it, even to read it.
So, one day, they showed up a year later and there was new people renting the basement portion, they let them in and they took the meter. Then guess what happened, no one had hot water to bath in. So, Malkum, the man who now lived on the first floor and rents the basement and Garage, is a building contractor, he then rigged it so the building got hot water on his water tank instead.
Don't ask me why she had 2 hot water tanks but the whole building was using only one. That puzzled me too.
I do know that I was also heating the basement as well.
So in this building there were 2 legal apartments, and one illegal apartment.
But anyway, by the time they took the meters the bill was ridiculasly high. So I took it back to IHEAP/CEDA. The lady who was filling out the paper work insisted I bring in the Electric bill. I expalined to her its not in my name, she said that was fine, but I told her I know it isn't. She demanded I bring it in so they can take care of both bills. Not surpizing when I called to check up on the status, I got someone who was lets say sort of dense, and called me by my boyfriends last name. I told him I wasn't married to him, and he kept asking me if I was Regina Ramirez, and I was like "What?" I just told him who I was, and I never signed that as my name, but he was stuck on that.
So now I am here a year later, sitting without Gas to cook with, or heat my apartment.
My Lawyer was supposed to help me with it. But got caught up with trying to save my Housing Voucher. Well, that's another post. Needless to say, he never took care of it.
I'll explain more later.
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Its been a while since I had posted, so I will try my best to catch up here.
Since that October post, a lot has happened.
I went through hell I will say. October and December brought things to a peek.
In November EMT's found my daughter faced down in the dirt, intoxicated, 300 times the legal limit. That day she had run off. She asked if she could go hang out with friends, I was hesitant. I told her to be back soon, cause I was making supper. She left, and I hadn't heard from her for hours. I had an urge to go see her girlfriend Irene. So I went to her house. I had to speak through her brother to speak to her mother. Her English was poor. Irene is hispanic.
Well according to her mother and brother my daughter wasn't with Irene. but, Irene wasn't there either. She was gone all night long.
The next day, I got a phone call and there was a woman on the other end. She asked who I was, and that moment I was already putting on my shoes and had my car keys in my hand before she finished telling me what hospital she was calling from, because I just knew. I was already in my car when she told me they had my daughter in their Emergency Department.
When I got there her face was beyond recognition. He hands showed very little injury, which was why the Chicago police refused to investigate, because they said they showed no defensive wounds. Well, if her arms are held behind her back there wont be any. Anyway, just to rule it out a made them do a full rape kit on her, and it came back negative, so we know she wasn't raped, thank God. But, it doesn't rule out a gangbang beating. Cowardly bitches (Irene and her whorish friends), who had a jealously complex cause they are all ugly thought they were big an bad to hold someone down while they beat on her. This bitch don't know how bad I wanna hurt her. But, my daughter asked me not to.
Well, the best thing they came out of that was My daughter didn't look back, and disassociated herself from that dogpack.
But, now she is living with her Aunt, who isn't the best influence, for more then one reason.
1) I have no Gas for several months prior, because the gas bill was too high for my income.
2) My mentally ill niece was living in our small apartment cause her husband tried to kill her, and she had with her her six your old mentally ill son, and their dog.
3) I don't want her having contact with Irene and company.
4) She is there waiting for me to find an apartment.
This will be continued.
Since that October post, a lot has happened.
I went through hell I will say. October and December brought things to a peek.
In November EMT's found my daughter faced down in the dirt, intoxicated, 300 times the legal limit. That day she had run off. She asked if she could go hang out with friends, I was hesitant. I told her to be back soon, cause I was making supper. She left, and I hadn't heard from her for hours. I had an urge to go see her girlfriend Irene. So I went to her house. I had to speak through her brother to speak to her mother. Her English was poor. Irene is hispanic.
Well according to her mother and brother my daughter wasn't with Irene. but, Irene wasn't there either. She was gone all night long.
The next day, I got a phone call and there was a woman on the other end. She asked who I was, and that moment I was already putting on my shoes and had my car keys in my hand before she finished telling me what hospital she was calling from, because I just knew. I was already in my car when she told me they had my daughter in their Emergency Department.
When I got there her face was beyond recognition. He hands showed very little injury, which was why the Chicago police refused to investigate, because they said they showed no defensive wounds. Well, if her arms are held behind her back there wont be any. Anyway, just to rule it out a made them do a full rape kit on her, and it came back negative, so we know she wasn't raped, thank God. But, it doesn't rule out a gangbang beating. Cowardly bitches (Irene and her whorish friends), who had a jealously complex cause they are all ugly thought they were big an bad to hold someone down while they beat on her. This bitch don't know how bad I wanna hurt her. But, my daughter asked me not to.
Well, the best thing they came out of that was My daughter didn't look back, and disassociated herself from that dogpack.
But, now she is living with her Aunt, who isn't the best influence, for more then one reason.
1) I have no Gas for several months prior, because the gas bill was too high for my income.
2) My mentally ill niece was living in our small apartment cause her husband tried to kill her, and she had with her her six your old mentally ill son, and their dog.
3) I don't want her having contact with Irene and company.
4) She is there waiting for me to find an apartment.
This will be continued.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Thanksgiving
Well Thanksgiving turned out real nice for me. Spent it with my hard to cope with daughter who I love so dearly.
I picked her up that say from her Auntie Dawn's house and took her to her Uncle Rich's house where we pigged out. Let her visit her father a bit, then I took her back to her Aunties house we we had thanksgiving dinner yet again. I do hate to compare but wow, her Auntie made an awesome turkey.
When we got there, her Auntie's Mom was smashed. But she wasn't any trouble. It ended well, and i am Thankful for that.
I picked her up that say from her Auntie Dawn's house and took her to her Uncle Rich's house where we pigged out. Let her visit her father a bit, then I took her back to her Aunties house we we had thanksgiving dinner yet again. I do hate to compare but wow, her Auntie made an awesome turkey.
When we got there, her Auntie's Mom was smashed. But she wasn't any trouble. It ended well, and i am Thankful for that.
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
She's been gone too long already. I miss her so much. Trying to be patient, and let her discover herself, but its taking too long.
Tomorrows Thanksgiving. It's hard to be grateful when alone, and missing my babies. I feel as if I have lost my world. Gone with the wind. I feel empty. Tearful. Sad. Wishing life would finally end for me. It hurts that my children just don't seem to love me, like I had hoped they would. I wasn't the best Mom, but I was the best Mom I knew how to be. I never wanted to be the kind of mother my own mother was. I never had a maternal teacher. I wasn't around younger kids much, growing up.
Well I gotta get off this pity pot. Bye for now.
Tomorrows Thanksgiving. It's hard to be grateful when alone, and missing my babies. I feel as if I have lost my world. Gone with the wind. I feel empty. Tearful. Sad. Wishing life would finally end for me. It hurts that my children just don't seem to love me, like I had hoped they would. I wasn't the best Mom, but I was the best Mom I knew how to be. I never wanted to be the kind of mother my own mother was. I never had a maternal teacher. I wasn't around younger kids much, growing up.
Well I gotta get off this pity pot. Bye for now.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
School Meeting
School meeting was held at Lane Tech in room 155 at 1:20pm today.
Me, Jack Cox, his intern, Meredith (Guidance Counselor), Mr. Yaffy or Laffy ( I forgot) were there, though we waited for another, who apparently never showed, and then Chailey came later on. We sat around and discussed Chailey and how to help her through whatever it is, she is going through, because her education was suffering. She had 15 absences, and the year just started, and missed her mid terms.
I gave them some background, and was honest with them. They can't help her if I'm covering things up. I just want her to have every chance she deserves to live a happy and prosperous life with the love and support I never had.
We talked about her home life, her outrageous behaviors, my relationship with her; her relationship with her father. I even threw in my ideas on why she is acting this way, as well has what a lousy Mom I was to her, and how I had wished I did things differently.
The put her on attendance check, where she must see the attendance taker, and he gives her a slip, and each teacher must sign it, and she must return it to him at the end of the day.
She's been going to school for 3 days straight now, and we wondered what the change was. I guess its because the first part was over and in her mind, started a clean slate, but I did tell her she needed to study the things they learned before, because she will be tested on it in the end of the year.
I mentioned her goals, and brought it up with her there, so they knew she actually had a goal in life. It doesn't surprise me that she wants to be a Psychologist, with all the mental illness in her family. This poor kid is surrounded by unstable people on both sides of her family.
In truth, she is a great kid, and has so much potential. I don't want her to waste it. I have seen this happen to too many people. I don't want her to be a statistic.
Me, Jack Cox, his intern, Meredith (Guidance Counselor), Mr. Yaffy or Laffy ( I forgot) were there, though we waited for another, who apparently never showed, and then Chailey came later on. We sat around and discussed Chailey and how to help her through whatever it is, she is going through, because her education was suffering. She had 15 absences, and the year just started, and missed her mid terms.
I gave them some background, and was honest with them. They can't help her if I'm covering things up. I just want her to have every chance she deserves to live a happy and prosperous life with the love and support I never had.
We talked about her home life, her outrageous behaviors, my relationship with her; her relationship with her father. I even threw in my ideas on why she is acting this way, as well has what a lousy Mom I was to her, and how I had wished I did things differently.
The put her on attendance check, where she must see the attendance taker, and he gives her a slip, and each teacher must sign it, and she must return it to him at the end of the day.
She's been going to school for 3 days straight now, and we wondered what the change was. I guess its because the first part was over and in her mind, started a clean slate, but I did tell her she needed to study the things they learned before, because she will be tested on it in the end of the year.
I mentioned her goals, and brought it up with her there, so they knew she actually had a goal in life. It doesn't surprise me that she wants to be a Psychologist, with all the mental illness in her family. This poor kid is surrounded by unstable people on both sides of her family.
In truth, she is a great kid, and has so much potential. I don't want her to waste it. I have seen this happen to too many people. I don't want her to be a statistic.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Struggles still abound
I had a revelation today. I actually had Mental Therapy, and it was amazingly wonderful.
I fantasize a lot. Sort of my way of coping with things. I have done this since a child. Sometimes the fantasies are of real things that have actually happened, which really just makes them replays of an event, but what I do in many of them is I will recreate the event in my mind, and play it out, sometimes with desired outcomes, other times not so good.
I also have straight up created fantasies, from start to finish. Sometimes I'll throw in some true elements.
Well today was a created fantasy about my mother, though it didn't start out that way.
I was a suicidal teen, and seriously depressed. I had gotten my hands on a gun, and one of my siblings seen me with it, and I ran off with it. The sibling went and told my father, who then he frantically looked for me.
He finds me by some water bank. I was tearful. he asked me why did I have a gun. I asked him if he knew how it felt to feel worthless. Somehow I was able to feel his rising inpatients.
His voice raised, out of desperation, and asked "Do you want to die???" I replied no, but then told him I felt real bad, and didn't know why nor did I understand why I always felt so bad all the time (In real I felt bad like that, but not suicidal).
I told him it felt like something was forcing me to do this, but I really didn't want to.
He repetitiously kept telling me to put the gun down. "Give me the gun. " I'd refuse and pull away from him.
Emotions we building, anxiety was strong. I'm searching for an explanation. I kept crying, telling and yelling "I FEEL SO BAD ALL THE TIME! Daddy, what do I do? Why, why do I feel bad all the time? Daddy I need and answer". With a quiver in his voice, he says, "I don't know baby. I wish I did, but I don't know".
At some point I got real close to him, and suddenly I was hugging him tightly, sobbing uncontrollably repeating my questions as a child would. Then out of my own mouth, I said "I need my Mom."
He consolingly said,"I know baby, I know. But your mother is sick".
My voice began to raise,"Why does she have to be sick? Why do I have to have a mother who is sick? Why is she sick all the time?" He'd say "I don't know why, baby".
While this played out in my mind, tears began to flood my eyes, because there was some truth to this.
For one thing, I wished my father was more receptive to my pain back then, and had seen my heart so bruised.
Secondly, my Mother was alive, with no cancer; not in a wheel chair; rarely up and about. Most of the time, wasting away in her bed, sleeping her life away. Never taking me for walks, never chatting with me, rarely hugging me, never singing to me, and very scarcely telling me she loved me. I didn't even think she liked me at all. I cry even now as I write this.
I realized, that I felt bad all the time, because of the absence on maternal attention I craved.
In this fantasy, my father understood, hugged and held me, as I cried on his shoulder.
But in reality, I never got that from anyone. So, maybe some of that was because Daddy didn't pay attention either.
The saddest part now is my guilt, of passing this on to my own daughter who is now 14 and as mixed up as I was. The only difference is she found a place to go with it. I never had one. So, it just sat dormant for years and years.
I love her so much though. I try to tell her this every chance I get.
Where I repeated myself, was when she was little, I sat in front of a computer, and shut out the world, including her, even though I was aware of her, I didn't show her much affection even though I know it was in my heart to do so. I just sat there and let it go.
I'm so mad at myself for it. I hate that I did that.
I did hug her and tell her I loved her. But I didn't do it enough, and I never played with her. That was so wrong of me. I can't get those days back. I can remember all the times she asked me to play barbie with her and I didn't. All the times she drug out a game and asked me to play with her, and I didn't. That must have hurt her so bad. I am so ashamed I did that. I really don't deserve her.
Saying sorry will never make up for it. I guess I'm getting what I deserve.
I am so sorry I didn't give her what she so deserved.
All I did was manifested my pain on to her.
Baby Girl, I love you so very much, it hurts. Your my heart, and i love you more then life itself. I waited a long time for you. I know I wasn't a good Mom. But know this baby, I do love you, and I am truly sorry for being such a disappointment.
God Bless you. Please, don't lose your faith.
I fantasize a lot. Sort of my way of coping with things. I have done this since a child. Sometimes the fantasies are of real things that have actually happened, which really just makes them replays of an event, but what I do in many of them is I will recreate the event in my mind, and play it out, sometimes with desired outcomes, other times not so good.
I also have straight up created fantasies, from start to finish. Sometimes I'll throw in some true elements.
Well today was a created fantasy about my mother, though it didn't start out that way.
I was a suicidal teen, and seriously depressed. I had gotten my hands on a gun, and one of my siblings seen me with it, and I ran off with it. The sibling went and told my father, who then he frantically looked for me.
He finds me by some water bank. I was tearful. he asked me why did I have a gun. I asked him if he knew how it felt to feel worthless. Somehow I was able to feel his rising inpatients.
His voice raised, out of desperation, and asked "Do you want to die???" I replied no, but then told him I felt real bad, and didn't know why nor did I understand why I always felt so bad all the time (In real I felt bad like that, but not suicidal).
I told him it felt like something was forcing me to do this, but I really didn't want to.
He repetitiously kept telling me to put the gun down. "Give me the gun. " I'd refuse and pull away from him.
Emotions we building, anxiety was strong. I'm searching for an explanation. I kept crying, telling and yelling "I FEEL SO BAD ALL THE TIME! Daddy, what do I do? Why, why do I feel bad all the time? Daddy I need and answer". With a quiver in his voice, he says, "I don't know baby. I wish I did, but I don't know".
At some point I got real close to him, and suddenly I was hugging him tightly, sobbing uncontrollably repeating my questions as a child would. Then out of my own mouth, I said "I need my Mom."
He consolingly said,"I know baby, I know. But your mother is sick".
My voice began to raise,"Why does she have to be sick? Why do I have to have a mother who is sick? Why is she sick all the time?" He'd say "I don't know why, baby".
While this played out in my mind, tears began to flood my eyes, because there was some truth to this.
For one thing, I wished my father was more receptive to my pain back then, and had seen my heart so bruised.
Secondly, my Mother was alive, with no cancer; not in a wheel chair; rarely up and about. Most of the time, wasting away in her bed, sleeping her life away. Never taking me for walks, never chatting with me, rarely hugging me, never singing to me, and very scarcely telling me she loved me. I didn't even think she liked me at all. I cry even now as I write this.
I realized, that I felt bad all the time, because of the absence on maternal attention I craved.
In this fantasy, my father understood, hugged and held me, as I cried on his shoulder.
But in reality, I never got that from anyone. So, maybe some of that was because Daddy didn't pay attention either.
The saddest part now is my guilt, of passing this on to my own daughter who is now 14 and as mixed up as I was. The only difference is she found a place to go with it. I never had one. So, it just sat dormant for years and years.
I love her so much though. I try to tell her this every chance I get.
Where I repeated myself, was when she was little, I sat in front of a computer, and shut out the world, including her, even though I was aware of her, I didn't show her much affection even though I know it was in my heart to do so. I just sat there and let it go.
I'm so mad at myself for it. I hate that I did that.
I did hug her and tell her I loved her. But I didn't do it enough, and I never played with her. That was so wrong of me. I can't get those days back. I can remember all the times she asked me to play barbie with her and I didn't. All the times she drug out a game and asked me to play with her, and I didn't. That must have hurt her so bad. I am so ashamed I did that. I really don't deserve her.
Saying sorry will never make up for it. I guess I'm getting what I deserve.
I am so sorry I didn't give her what she so deserved.
All I did was manifested my pain on to her.
Baby Girl, I love you so very much, it hurts. Your my heart, and i love you more then life itself. I waited a long time for you. I know I wasn't a good Mom. But know this baby, I do love you, and I am truly sorry for being such a disappointment.
God Bless you. Please, don't lose your faith.
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